This story of my sexual encounter with a guy will give anybody with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation worries more confidence moving forward

I’m inspired to share this recollection in the hope of helping guys who have had anxiety struggles around erectile dysfunction / premature ejaculation.

Rewind - I slept with a guy who was quite anxious beforehand. He’d thrown into conversation that he hadn’t had sex for nearly two years. I struggled to see how, but no judgement. He was kind, had a lot going for himself and was funny.

He dropped in there that he may struggle with lose his boner but wasn’t sure.

Okay, not a problem at all.

I reassured him that I liked him, that I’m not here to judge his ‘performance’. I liked him, wanted to pleasure him and would have fun exploring each others bodies regardless.

I was told I’m not like most girls. This didn’t click at first. He was trying to tell me that I wasn’t putting excess pressure that men often face to ‘deliver’.

I suggested we could enjoy cuddling, or even some foreplay, at his pace. Despite me being VERY horny, the greater good was him feeling comfortable.

We got down to things and when giving him head he went floppy. He panicked and I told him I know it’s difficult for guys for a variety of reasons. No need to worry. He got harder again and we got back into things.

I asked if he wanted to have sex, and he did. I could sense he was nervous and I let him know that at any time, we could stop, or change position, or if he needs to, let me know what works best to stimulate him.

He was on top of me, and I’ll add, giving it to me fucking good. He paused and he’d gone to a semi. I smiled and asked if he’d like more head or to take a break. We got back into things, and I whispered, asking which position he enjoyed the most.

When putting me in doggy, we were back in business. My, oh my, he clapped my cheeks. Starting slow, building up and making me cum. This was a turning point. From here, oh boy, we were on fire.

I sensed he’d been shamed previously and struggled as a result. He confessed afterwards that he felt a huge relief and really enjoyed things, having had a bad experience previously. The poor guy hadn’t sought after sex due to that in years.

Guys, if you feel like ED or premature cumming is kicking your ass - there are women who are patient, understanding and would love to enjoy your company in bed. The women that heavily judge and ridicule are not worth your time.

Don’t put yourself down and speaking about these things can help loads, or at least, get you in the right direction to enjoyment again.